I need some advice. So I am going through everything I have for baby T and also for myself and trying to remember all those little things I never thought about with Makenzie that I used. I have done a lot of research and although this is my second baby- I honestly feel like its my first. I try to compare a lot of my experiences with Makenzie but many of them I am not sure if it was normal or if things were a certain way because she was sick. I have no clue. Everyone tries to give you advice and so far everything has been great advice but there is so much of it I don't know what to absorb and what to ignore. There are somethings I want to do similar with Makenzie because it worked great with her. We did the Babywise method with her to help her get on a schedule for both feeding and sleeping and she did amazing at it. I am planning on breastfeeding, and lucky for me then-- Kenz was a pro. I never had issues with her until she was about 2 months and that's when she got too weak to suck and we had to switch to bottles. I never had clogged ducts or trouble getting milk in. I mean it was a bit challenging at first and it hurt like hell but I really cant complain. I am praying TK is just as good but I am very aware he might not be and I am just trying to make sure I can get as many tips and tricks now if things are a bit harder.
I have been researching all the best creams for nipples, all the best storage ideas... I have been reading up on baby wise again and researching all the best thing to do and not to do when baby is sleeping. I have been debating on whether to have him just start out in the crib, like Makenzie, in his own room or if I should start him in a bassinet in our room. I am looking into swaddling and not swaddling. I am looking into what all those different types of crys mean. I am trying to figure out if those white noise machines are really worth it or if I should just have him sleep with music or no music at all.
Man oh man its overwhelming. I am telling you right now I was not this overwhelmed with Makenzie. I think I had the whole--- Oh how hard can it be, nothing bad will actually happen mentality. With this one I know all babies are different and he could be totally opposite from Kenzie but I am not feeling confident that I know anything. I feel like I'm starting over. Its been almost 3 years since I was a Mom. Since I had any of those kinds of responsibilities and that scares the crap out of me. I know it will work out and I will do my best but I still want to be as prepared as possible.
SO... I would like to ask for all your tips, tricks, must haves and donts.
Please be nice about it. Everyone is different and what works for you might not work for others and that's okay. but I thought it would be fun to get your lists. Do you have a favorite product for nursing, diapering, binkies, clothes, blankets, etc... that you swear by? Do you have a secret diaper cream that is amazing? Do you have advice on what to do if I do get those clogged milk ducts? I am up for any and all advice.
I would then love to keep this updated as I start trying and testing these tips. I would love to help another other mum out there that might have some similar frustrations. and I bet with your tips now there will be some others out there that could use a little advice as well.
So please help us all out. I cant wait to hear what you have to say!
To get the ball rolling... Here is my PREGNANCY list.
- Those huge maternity pillows are life changing. They offer support in all the right areas and have totally helped all my back pains.
- When I get nauseous lemon things usually always help me feel better. I started this at the beginning and it really helped and its continued to help lately.
- I don't think those special anti-stretch mark lotions make much of a difference. I used them religiously with Makenzie and I got a TON of stretch marks. With this one I would put all that stuff on in the beginning but then the smells started making me ill so I stopped and just put on regular yummy smelling bath and body works stuff and I honestly haven't got a single new stretch mark and you can only see a few that are from Makenzie so they have faded.
- Don't beat yourself up because you eat something you maybe shouldn't have. Like a few too many cookies or donuts. Life will go on.
- Indulge in your cravings. Mine luckily have been more dairy stuff. Like milk and yogurt. I have read several places that when you get cravings like that its your body's way of telling you that you need more of that. Now I don't think you should go over the top when you are craving potato chips-- maybe eat a few of those but try to eat something else that is starchy but has more nutritional value.
- Long shirts or tunic type dresses with a pair of leggings are the best thing for a growing belly. and you don't need to buy maternity so you can wear all of that stuff after baby comes.
So that's just my pregnancy list.
Now its your turn.