tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3926880480919201378.post3929167006520058359..comments2023-10-21T06:25:18.294-06:00Comments on Calling All Angels: Needed to writeRyan.Kendra.Makenzie.Trackerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06190931045172497736noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3926880480919201378.post-27117125712866648012013-08-01T21:20:58.347-06:002013-08-01T21:20:58.347-06:00I can totally relate. I only worked a few months ...I can totally relate. I only worked a few months after having my first child and then I was laid off. The whole time I was pregnant and those three months that I worked I wished and prayed that I could be a stay at home mom. Fast forward to nearly four years and two kids; I find myself struggling to find balance. I feel this insane amount of guilt wanting to work, I feel guilt not adding to our financial stability and I feel guilty that I am not 100% satisfied being a full time stay at home mom. However, I have come to understand that either way I choose; if it be staying home full time or working part time, I am making some sort of sacrifice. It is amazing being home and I love being the one to care for my boys and watch them grow. I also know that I need something for myself to reclaim my identity, in a sense. It is nice to be told you did a good job or noticed. Being a mom is completely selfless. It is the purest and simplest act of love and devotion. Each and every circumstance is personal and no one truly knows a another's situation or the reason for someone's decision. I have come to understand that I love being home, but I feel a sense of self worth working outside the home. I am currently only working one day a week and it is a blessed break during the week. I would like to work a bit more, but I explained to my husband my feelings as simply as I could. "I want to be a mother first and an employee second." All in all, I can entirely relate to your post. I am sure that most any mom can relate in some way or another. I believe that we as moms, are all in looking for that perfect balance that best suits are family.Trinityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08784813227951661229noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3926880480919201378.post-56447926753186000462013-08-01T13:26:21.146-06:002013-08-01T13:26:21.146-06:00I've heard one child is the hardest, and it ge...I've heard one child is the hardest, and it gets easier with more...<br /><br />You seem to be a great mom to Tracker and Makenzie, and you don't need to feel so guilty all the time!!<br /><br />Is there any way you might have some depression? I had PPD after the birth of my son, did some meds and counseling, and I'm in such a better place now.Kristahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07598812035443169876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3926880480919201378.post-10163078327307391032013-08-01T10:24:39.075-06:002013-08-01T10:24:39.075-06:00I am the mom of two little boys. I used to be a te...I am the mom of two little boys. I used to be a teacher, and it was such a fulfilling job. When our second son was born, it didn't make financial sense for me to keep working, so I have been home for a year now. It is hard. I have done the career thing and the mom thing, and I am totally with you on having guilt either way. Being home is really hard work. Having them in day care is really hard. I think when kids are little, life is just plain hard! I have really struggled with losing myself as a person--not just as a mom and wife--since leaving my career. You are not alone with your mixed feelings. Keep your chin up and know that you are doing your best!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04466754046441755214noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3926880480919201378.post-26336442854937351672013-07-31T22:13:49.996-06:002013-07-31T22:13:49.996-06:00I read this earlier and loved it and it seems tota...I read this earlier and loved it and it seems totally relevant to your post so I wanted to share <br /><br />"I want a break, not because I'm bored or restless or craving some fun, (although I am probably feeling those things a lot of the time.) I want a break because I put absolutely everything I have into staying at home with my kids. From the moment I open my eyes in the morning, there isn't a single second of my day where I'm not engaged and on call. There isn't a single moment where I am alone with my thoughts, where I'm not being touched and needed and where demands aren't being made of me. Not a single moment. Not when I'm brushing my teeth or showering or trying to find something clean to wear. Not even in the bathroom.<br /><br /> As stay-at-home parents, we understand that going to work all day isn't fun, and it isn't easy. We get that we're lucky to spend our days with our children. We've had responsibilities and stresses outside of motherhood, and we understand that life is challenging for you, and for everyone. We know that commuting to and from work and sitting in a cubical all day is not how you would choose to spend your time, if you had a choice. We know that going to work is not a personal break where you can unwind and put your feet up. We totally get that, and we love you and appreciate you for all you do to keep our families safe and cared for. We would be better at saying thank you if we had even a single ounce of energy or sanity left over at the end of the day. We love you. We do. And, thank you."<br />http://www.huffingtonpost.com/amanda-king/stay-at-home-parent_b_2558642.htmlMdcermotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03594818272228129017noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3926880480919201378.post-91107651897687961832013-07-31T20:09:43.092-06:002013-07-31T20:09:43.092-06:00My dear Kendra, you are working. You are taking c...My dear Kendra, you are working. You are taking care of your family and that is the most important job you could have. I know its tough, I raised 5. Each time I thought I can't do this after all but I did. They all grew up healthy adults. Don't let guilt overcome you. Nothing to be guilty about. You get up each morning and go to work. You are the bestest mother to Tracker he could have and a good wife to Ryan. Praying for you to not be such a perfectionist. Life is good. Just love on that little boy and let it happen. Lea and her Mustangshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10081978031741002235noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3926880480919201378.post-27801834452800600882013-07-31T19:47:21.420-06:002013-07-31T19:47:21.420-06:00I feel the same way. Im currently on mat leave and...I feel the same way. Im currently on mat leave and in Canada we are lucky and get a whole YEAR. Every other day I flip flop between wanting to go back to work part time or just stay at home full time. It's super hard! Also I didn't bookmark the address to your new blog so I haven't read it for awhile, whats the address again? Thanks!Neechel Steedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04301913258491255395noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3926880480919201378.post-50868077211817238502013-07-31T14:14:12.868-06:002013-07-31T14:14:12.868-06:00Let me first start by saying you are doing a great...Let me first start by saying you are doing a great job! Even though it seems at the end of the day you have nothing to show for it, you have a little boy and husband that love you and that is what is most important. Not a clean house or homemade dinner or a clean baby:) Babies are hard. They take a lot of time and patience. There are MANY days where I feel I failed but a sweet little kiss or an "I love you" is all I need. But there are also days where I feel I need more. I chose 8 years ago when I had my first girl to stay at home with her (I finished my Bachelors degree when she was 18 months old so that was my work for a while) But I am able to stay at home while my husband works and I feel guilty sometimes but I remind myself that my children are what is most important now and I am raising them to be successful in life. There are also a lot of days where I feel I need to do more, be better. I sometimes measure my success in loads of laundry which is a huge feat! And that is a-ok! I feel like now in my children's lives(4 girls!) the best/most important thing I can give them is being at home with them. Even if it is "just 1." That "1" little baby is very special and is lucky to have you as his mom. I admire you and your strength persevering after losing your little girl. That is tough and I cannot imagine what you go through every day.<br />I learned from my mom that it is hard to care for others if you haven't cared for yourself. Then you husband comes next, then the kids. For me I rely on my Heavenly Father to get me through each day and He has helped me to be a better person and feel better about myself so I can be a better wife/mom/human<br /> Also I recommend serving others. Sometimes when I am feeling really down about things taking cookies (even if they are burnt or store bought:) helps me to think of others and not on how crappy my day was :) I read an article a little while ago (I will try and find it again) but it says perfectly what I am trying to say :) I will find it and post a link. But know that you are doing a great job and know it is ok to feel guilt and feel like you need a reward. We are only human afterall :) Keep you head up and keep truckin'Starlahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10922801684084644042noreply@blogger.com